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Hem Sometimes Fern will tell s about a client s story or share one of her own but she doesn t get bogged down in itThe biggest hurdle of the book is getting through the first half Fern has set a big task for herself and she has to cover a lot of starting off ground before we can get to the meat of it She has to make sure her reader Blind Man's Bluff: The Untold Story of American Submarine Espionage understands Attachment Theory and then she has to make sure her readernderstands Consensual Nonmonogamy If you are already familiar these sections are easy to skim The second half is the good stuff and I really appreciated how practical and clear Fern s advice and information is The book lays out plenty of examples and nderstands the many different situations CNM people may find themselves in Fern is good at always acknowledging these variations even if most of her book is directed at CNM people who are having multiple romantic relationships specifically It does lean a little too heavy on couples who are new to nonmonogamy andor people who are living withnesting with a partner but this is to be expected She doesn t embrace a hierarchal framework and she always acknowledges the value of every person in these scenarios The final section specifically focuses on the self and applies her entire analysis of how we relate to partners to how we relate to ourselves
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Note to self read Me Tight Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love first There are than a few books out there Me Tight Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love first There are than a few books out there how nonmonogamy works We haven t moved very far past them most books are about what it is how it works the basics But for regular relationships those kinds of books don t really exist For monogamous relationships though you have a seemingly infinite number of self help books about how to make your relationships better But these books are pretty The Racket useless for consensually nonmonogamous people What is normal for monogamous relationships the benchmarks the agreements etc is not at all similar to what CNM people as Fern calls them have POLYSECURE wants to be a relationship self help book for people in nonmonogamous relationships specifically people thinking about attachment styles It is successful at what it sets out to do though some of the task Fern has taken on slows her down a bit But it s still sonusual to see this kind of book in the world that it feels radicalFern is a therapist who specializes in nonmonogamy and who is actually nonmonogamous herself That goes a long way in establishing the kind of trust that s necessary for the reader She is mostly operating in the theoretical here and the book is not heavy on real life examples but what she shares is so practical that it doesn t really need Attachment theory has entered the mainstream but most discussions focus on how we can cultivate secure monogamous relationships What if like many people you’re striving for secure happy attachments with than one partner Polyam.
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book about nonmonogamy am not terribly familiar with attachment theory so the ways Fern applies it aren t anything I can offer a Culture Shock Malaysia ualified review of But as a layperson I learned a lot and I was able to give myself a whole lot of food for thought This book is really meant as a jumping off point something that shows you what kinds ofestions you should be asking yourself and your partner rather than the key to a problem I often find thisA Book About Nonmonogamy
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Found Myself Thinking About Mymyself thinking about my relationships past and present and it was a really good opportunity for reflection that I can definitely see myself coming back toFor people who are new to nonmonogamy this may give some estions to chew on and it may be helpful to get you oriented in the world of nonmonogamy but it s mostly for people who are well into it and working through than one important emotionally committed relationshipCould we please have 50 books like this It s definitely time to get past the same 3 or 4 books that it seems like everyone always recommends that are always starter books and that don t give you the opportunity to reflect and grow which are central elements of nonmonogamous relationships for many people practicing them. Ces can influence our relationships Then she sets out six specific strategies to help you move toward secure attachments in your multiple relationships Polysecure is both a trailblazing theoretical treatise and a practical guide. .